Like water circling a drain or a planet orbiting a star, our bad feelings can hold a certain kind of attraction.
Sometimes, something makes us feel anxious – and we kind of enjoy indulging that feeling.
But at the same time, we really don’t want to feel that way. It’s like a fatal attraction.
That’s when distraction can become one of our feel-better tools.
Now – I’m not a fan of denying a feeling by immediately distracting ourselves. We need to feel that feeling first – and allow it to be there.
But sometimes, when we’ve figured out what the feeling is and we know we’re just held in some bizarre gravitational orbit around that feeling, then keeping ourselves busy doing something else can work.
This kind of distraction allows us to snap the rope that’s keeping us orbiting the bad feeling.
It stops the delicious obsession with our anxiety.
Maybe this will work for you; maybe it won’t. You won’t know until you try it.