“Supposing a tree fell down, Pooh, when we were underneath it?”
“Supposing it didn’t,” said Pooh after careful thought.
Piglet was comforted by this.
– From The House at Pooh Corner, by AA Milne
We all have a bit of Piglet in us.
It’s strangely comforting to fear for the future. The “what-could-happens.”
Such thoughts reassure the mind that it is taking care of us by demonstrating that we’re ready for every eventuality.
The trouble is, all this prep makes us anxious. We’re so busy scanning for threats that we fail to see what’s going right – right now.
I find the best way to get out of “tree falling down mode” is Appreciations: Thinking of three things you can appreciate right now.
I do this every night before going to bed.
But we can also use Appreciations any time of the day.
If we remember.
This is why making the Feel Better Project process part of your life is so important – when it becomes a habit, you don’t have to remember anymore.
This is the process:
Check in with yourself and ask: How am I feeling right now?
Respect that feeling. It has validity.
Next, do (or think) something that feels just a little bit better.
One of those things that really helps is asking: What can I appreciate about this moment?
Try it… and notice that you feel a little bit lighter.