The Feel Better Project Daily

The free daily email that shows people how to change their thoughts, so that life and business becomes easy and fulfilling rather than stressful and overwhelming.

Every minute of every day we get to decide: do we choose fear or do we choose love?

When a horrific news story takes over our TV.

When an irritating email drops into our inbox.

When our spouse snaps something that presses our buttons.

The day is made up of many of these small decision points; many forks in the road. Every minute, every phone call, every word.

We can choose fear: we can let the mind run away on a crazy-familiar spiral of what if, what next, why did I do that?, if only, it’s not fair, I’m worried…

Or we can take a breath and stop. Just for a second. And be still.

We can ask: will I let my mind blindly rush down one of its crazy labyrinths or will I just pause, take a breath and let the moment pass?

Now, that crazy labyrinth is a well-worn trail. We’ve been treading it since we were three. It’s comforting and we know where it leads.

Choosing to pause feels like denying our rat-brains the sugary treat that’s sure to be at the labyrinth’s core.

That addictive pull is powerful.

But.. over time… it’s the pause that makes us feel better.

Because we choose stillness over intensity.

We choose peace over anxiety.

We choose the wide path of love over the tight spiral of fear.

So how do we get there?

In my experience, it’s by learning to notice our thoughts.

To open up the gap between trigger and response.

And in that gap, to say “hold on, is that really what I want to say and do?”

You can start today, by asking yourself: how am I feeling right now?

And if you’re not feeling quite right, figure out why – and what would make you feel just a little bit better?

  1. This is the simple practice of the Feel Better Project.

1. Stop.

2. Ask how we are feeling.

3. Notice and accept that feeling.

4. Do or think something that feels just a little bit better.

It's not easy. It requires practice.

But only practice.

Simon Payn

 

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